In this book, Scott Huffaker has assembled an impressive array of concepts, tools, and strategies for understanding and dealing with grief. In the first chapter, he shares the personal story of losing his oldest son, and throughout the book adds person insight and experiences. The book ranges from academic to philosophical and in some parts conversational as Scott endeavors to provide the reader with tools to manage loss. He generously quotes and recommends a number of other books and authors as additional resources. I personally read it in ebook but think this is one of those books that’s nice to have in paperback to highlight and make notes in. – Amazon Review
“ Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.  As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.  Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them…”
BORN OUT OF the death of his son, author S.E. Huffaker confronts the painful questions everyone faces with the loss of a loved one:
- Why do I feel so alone?
- How long will I be broken?
- How can I cope with my unbearable grief?
- Will I ever be myself again?
- Will my grief ever subside?
- Do other people experience what I am experiencing?
- Has society shortcut the mourning process?
- Is there a set time for grieving and mourning?
- Has grief and mourning been mislabeled and/or misinterpreted?
- Are there relatively easy things I can do to cope with my grief?
- What can I do now?
- What can I do from here on?
- What can I do from where I am right now?
IF YOU LONG to find the answers to these and many other questions, this book will be your friend and guide as you learn to navigate the stormy seas of tragedy and death.
* The death of Dylan was the story, yet the inspiration for the book came from an episode of NCIS on CBS which aired on September 27, 2021. The characters Gibbs & Tobias were discussing losses and Tobias pointed out that there is no name in the English language for parents of lost children. Unbeknownst to me at the time was the story and the author of that script. Scott Williams, the executive producer for the show wrote that episode. And it was written from the heart. Scott and his wife Catherine lost their son Shane in 1997 only after 14 days. After that they established an incredible charity called Shane’s Inspiration. From the website this is how it is described. ” a non-profit dedicated to fostering a bias-free world for children with disabilities through the creation of inclusive playgrounds and programs. An international organization that creates social inclusion for all kids, Shane’s Inspiration was created in memory of Scott and Catherine’s son Shane. Currently, Shane’s Inspiration has expanded their name to “Inclusion Matters by Shane’s Inspiration”.
**As a side note 50% of the net proceeds of this books sales are for a philanthropic effort to fund www.redmounatingrace.com in Birmingham, AL. They provide low cost housing for people who are in Birmingham for an extended medical stay. The other 50% will be utilized to market the book. Thank you for your support!
About the Author
Scott (S. E.) Huffaker is a diverse businessman, who is an entrepreneur, banker, investor, musician and now author. Scott, his wife Tammy and their two youngest children live on the Gulf Coast. He is the father of six children and three dogs. Scott is truly just an ordinary guy who has had some extraordinary experiences that have allowed him to have insight into the subject matter of his new book, Lost Arrows – Coping With the Death of a Child. The net proceeds of the book will be used for philanthropic purposes and marketing to that end. Learn more about our philanthropic efforts and join our community at our blog, https://lostarrowsbook.blogspot.com/p/home.html .